VIGOR HEALTH CONSULTING: "I love me"

VIGOR HEALTH CONSULTING: "I love me": “To love is fabulous but to be loved is powerful” I see the effects of the lack of love in a person’s life on a daily basis. What ...

"I love me"

“To love is fabulous but to be loved is powerful”

I see the effects of the lack of love in a person’s life on a daily basis. What it does to you, how it can break you and the way it makes you turn on yourself, abuse yourself. We become our worst enemy when we don't feel loved.

 

BUT we need to look within for some answers !

We expect to be loved just because we love someone and are devastated when it’s not given back.

 

And Sometimes !

We fail to recognise that we all love differently and we interpret that difference as a lack of love

 

And of course !

There are times where we are the givers of love and get none back in return.

 

When love goes unrequited, whatever the reasons we devastate ourselves.

Here is my theory for all my women friends who struggle to understand why they are troubled and why they abuse their bodies. We women are creatures of emotion; we need love to feel whole. We love freely and we expect love with the same fervour.

I have experienced both - to love and not be loved, and then to be loved whole heartedly. It changed my world, it made me secure and confident, it made me feel complete – as though now I can move on and do what I need to.

 

"When someone says I am happy alone and don’t really need someone else to feel complete, its most often that they are lying to themselves. It goes against the very grain of being human, we are not loners, we need companionship and its very important that we are surrounded with people we love."

But how often are we surrounded by people who love us?

 

Do we feel compromised, as though we are the only givers in all our relationships?

If we are - then the balance has tipped, it’s time to even things out. If we don’t recognise that our relationships are tipped over, we continue to be unhappy. And if we do recognise it and continue that way because we feel we are unlovable then we live a compromised, unhappy and extremely sad existence.

 

No one is unlovable, “there’s someone for everyone” and that might make the cynic in you smirk – but there usually is someone for everyone. 

Stop compromising, communicate what you need in a relationship and compromise when it’s not something integral to you, only when it’s something you think you can live without. Very often unhappiness is because we compromise on issues integral to us and end up neither here nor there. If being loved a certain way is your need and your partner can’t fulfil it your way, but you know he deeply cares for you – let it go. Understand your middle ground as a couple and respect each others needs.

 

But if you really feel you are getting nothing back and ending up being bitter about how much you give - take a step back and see things objectively. If you are still convinced move on and find love.

Lastly take control of your life, get fit, eat right, work or keep your mind occupied, and make sure you feel worthy for yourself. Because its only then you will find others wanting to be worthy of you.

Go forth and be loved J

 

"RESPECT YOUR BODY AND LOVE YOURSELF"